When Life Breaks Up With You
I’m a full time breakup coach where I work 40 hours a week in my coaching practice but up until last week I had another job that I’d use that income to pay for my living expenses so that I could reinvest all of my money back into my company. Last Friday, that job let me go.
My job broke up with me.
3 Small Steps Toward Huge Transformation
Was going through it last week and it really forced me to look everything over in my life, practice what I preach and do what I tell my clients to do.
As I did this, I realized it is an accumulation of 3 small things that really create huge transformation in my life. So I wanted to share these with everyone.
7 Questions to Ask Yourself After a Breakup
7 questions you should ask yourself after a breakup to move forward with grace. Don’t let this breakup be something that breaks you but something that propels you forward into the next chapter of your life.
So grab your journal, a pen/pencil, get cozy and open up your heart, let it fall out onto the paper.
Should You Take Time Off Work After a Breakup?
My first gut reaction is to tell people to take off work if they need to when going through a breakup but in all honesty the more I’ve thought about it and the more I’ve worked with my clients I more often than not urge my clients to go into the office.
As I’m sure you’ve heard me say before, going through a breakup is like grieving someone who is still alive, and in some ways that’s more difficult than grieving someone who has died.
How to Cope With Memories After a Breakup
Sometimes after a breakup all we can do is think of all the good memories of our past relationship. Many of the things that once bothered us have vanished from our minds as if they never happened or maybe the morphed into “it wasn’t that bad” thoughts.
The truth is, our brain is a part of our human body. Just like our heart and our liver it has a job. It’s job is to think and solve problems. That’s just what it does.
11 Books to Read After a Breakup
One of my clients asked me what books I recommend for breakups. Funny thing is, I only listened to one book on repeat after my breakup, which is the first one on my list. Literally I listened to it 32 times all the way through. I met Jen Sincero in Chicago a year later, cried, hugged her to death and thanked her for saving my life. It was that good… life changing to me. I also listened to a lot of podcasts so I’ll share those separately.
Below is a list of books that I have read/listened to on audible. I love these books and share them with my clients when it makes sense. Some of these are very well known books while others you may have never even heard of before.
How to Feel Better After a Breakup
One of the most common issues my clients come to with is …
“I just want to feel better”
I get it, I’ve been there, you wake up and you wish it was just a bad dream. A heavy blanket falls over your body and instantly you’re like, “why do I have to start my day like this, can’t I just wake up and this not be true?”.
Why You Shouldn't Blame Yourself or Your Ex for Your Breakup
This is such an easy thing to do.
Trust me, I’ve been there, I’ve done that, multiple times.
My last breakup I for sure blamed the f*ck out of my ex. I hated on him so hard and made it all about how and what he did or didn’t do. I 100% blamed our breakup on him. He was the one who broke up with me.
How Do I Forgive My Ex?
So often my clients come to me and say they just want to stop thinking about their ex. They just want to feel better and stop obsessing over what it is their ex is doing or not doing. Over time, they get to a point where they want to forgive them. They ask me when is the right time for me to forgive and let go? How will I ever be able to forgive them?
The answer my friend.
Forgiveness is defined as “stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.” - From the Googles
Can't Stop Thinking About Your Ex? Check Out the Free Breakup First Aid Kit!
Breakups are gut wrenching. Not only do you feel a slew of negative emotions but you also feel physical pain sometimes. Most of my clients just want to “feel better”. They want to stop crying, being sad, upset, all of the emotions. They just want to feel the slightest bit better.
What To Do When You Run Into Your Ex
Nothing is worse than running into your ex unexpectedly not knowing what to do then accidentally being all awkward and weird. Maybe you hide? Maybe you act over the top trying to impress him? Maybe you make up a bunch of shit to make it sound like things are great? Typically, it doesn’t go exactly as you’d hope.
So here’s the thing,