Your thoughts create the way you feel. Which means you can generate any feeling in the world. You choose to feel love. No one provides that feeling for you, or makes you feel loved.
You feel loved because of the thoughts and interpretations of the circumstances in your life.
So when someone says, “I love you” you don’t feel loved because they said that. You feel loved because of your interpretation of those words from that person.
Love feels wonderful, it is always an option, and it’s always the best option.
However, a lot of times we create manuals for those in our lives. We set expectations about how things should go, and when people fall short of those expectations (because they will, they are literally here to live their life, not yours) we choose to feel dislike, anger, frustration. We create rules that set us up to feel those negative emotions, how does that make any sense?
If someone you love, cheats on you, lies to you, says something mean, it’s not your love for them that hurts, it’s what you make those things mean that hurts.
Your choice to not feel love is only hurting you.
A lot of us think that when we love someone, it somehow benefits that person.
We then think we can’t love that person because of what they did -- they don’t deserve that love from us.
When in reality they don’t feel or not feel love based off of what you do, they feel or don’t feel love because of the thoughts they have.
Your withholding of love doesn’t protect you or hurt someone else. It hurts you.
You get to feel love whenever you want to. Nothing anyone does or doesn’t do can ever deny you that feeling. You get to choose how you feel about other people regardless of how they treat you.
You create all your own feelings. They create all their own feelings.
So knowing this, knowing you get to generate your emotions, why would you want to choose anything other than love?
“Unconditional love means that you feel love toward them no matter what they do. You do this for your own sake. Because it feels good.”
- The Life Coach School
A lot of times we decide we want to feel negative emotion about what someone did and react in a negative way. This is punishing ourselves, not them. We don’t have to do this, we don’t have to put conditions on our love. We don’t have to deny ourselves the feeling of love just because someone doesn’t follow our manual. We get to feel love no matter what the other person does.
This doesn’t mean that we don’t have boundaries and we don’t leave when necessary. It just means that we don’t have to feel hate or anger doing it. We don’t have to react.
We are all human, having the human experience. We all make mistakes, big ones, small ones, medium ones. We don’t have to hate those we love for making mistakes. We can decide to love them for the human they are.
And honestly, just because someone is behaving the way you want them too, doesn’t mean they love you more. Like hello! What?!? Think of how many times you’ve done something because someone else “wanted” you too. Did you feel more love towards them?
Start unconditionally loving those around you. None of them have “hurt you” because you are responsible for your feelings so you hurt you. They are just living out their human life just as you are and you can decide to feel love or you can decide to feel something else.
The choice is yours.
Choose love, simply because it feels magical.
Want some help, check out the unconditional love worksheet or schedule a free breakthrough session with me.
With love and positive vibes,